At singles mixers because there are so many men, it cheapens them
I appreciate what you say about the experiences from the female perspective. But I can’t help wondering why our experiences are so different? At all the events and outings I’ve undertaken, all the women have been swarmed by continuously rotating clutches of men. even the unattractive ladies get plenty of attention. I do know what you mean about going to the events and not actually mixing. I’ve certainly observed it and sometimes been guilty of it myself. Sometimes I’ll just pay attention and listen to what’s going on with the group. I don’t think anybody is capable of always being on. Still I’ll often approach and initiate conversations when something occurs to me. Sometimes the conversation will go on organically; other times I’ll struggle to keep the conversation going and it’s like pulling teeth without anesthesia. I figure if it’s that hard, I can get the hint and I stop torturing us both. Often I’ll approach and the brush off will be chilly to rude. One example that comes to mind when I went up to one of these clutches of men surrounding a couple of women. While I didn’t get the feeling that they were my type and they weren’t at all particularly attractive, there were so few women at the event so I thought I’d keep an open mind and try to get to know them. So after I got my chance to make conversation, the one women briefly acknowledged me with a look and then ignored me completely as she suggested to her companion that they go over and talk to some dudes.